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some people, the power of noble command, of a self-poised, thinking being who can rightfully assume leadership. In others there is an exquisite grace which moulds strength into forms of beauty, that is found in persons who have an instinctive sense of proportion. Again, in others there is a pathos that recalls the tenderest part of one's experiences. The manners of a well educated circle are like a symphony, in which one takes the Andante, another the Adagio, and still another the Allegretto movement; each has its own charm, and the whole fills the observer with a sense of delicious being, with a feeling of consolation and exaltation.

The self-control that puts aside its own preferences and seems pleased, is not hypocrisy; it is the exchangeable silver coin of society, without which intercourse would become rough and snappish. It is not sufficient to stop at being good; advance must be made to fine manners. Nor need one be afraid of being too