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husband who has an understanding of sexual psychology.

The presence of structural defects, abnormalities and chronic affections of the generative organs may be responsible for a feeling of antipathy, or even horror, toward sexual congress. This condition, however, is a problem for the pathologist, or at least for the gynecologist, or specialist in woman's diseases, and lies outside of our present discussion.

We are primarily interested in normally-sexed married people who are seeking the information which will enable them to live a happier and fuller conjugal life.

Fortunately, the great mass of men and women come in this category, and those who have not succeeded in adjusting themselves harmoniously in their sexual relations may do so by obtaining an insight into the fundamental laws of sex.

Characteristics of Feminine Nature. The majority of women who are apathetic, indifferent, or even antipathetic in the marital relations may be re-educated upon a basis of normal expression if the sexual partner shows the consideration which the feminine nature unconsciously, but uncompromisingly, demands.

This implies that the man must never force himself sexually upon his mate, and never assert himself when the act may be physically undesirable or psychically repugnant. The sexual feelings of both men and women run in cycles, but in women the variation is much more defined. At certain times of the month, intercourse may be objectionable to the woman because of the low ebb of her sexual feeling. At such times, which are readily perceivable to the informed husband, he will not engender antagonism and discord by being insistent.

At those times when the woman is disposed to sexual excitation, then the man's advances should be framed in loving words, in petting and fondling; in other words, in love-play