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hood is an occupation, of which the organism in its sexual expression and promptings seems to take full cognizance.

The result is, and this is an important fact, that woman has to be wooed and won—unless she is bought at the matrimonial bargain counter, and these cases are here only alluded to because they exist. It is not our province to attempt their solution. These problems cannot be solved in a book of this kind, except insofar as the sexual experiences of those concerned approach the field we are discussing. Where the problems overlap into match-making economics, we can only hope that things will turn out for the best.

Woman must be wooed and won—in courtship; and in every sex episode after marriage, if the man wishes to hold the love and esteem of his mate.

Too much stress cannot be laid upon this important point. Lack of attention to this principle, which may be dignified by the term law of nature—as it is universal throughout nature—has been the cause of unsatisfactory sexual relations in countless marriages.

Furthermore, the dissatisfaction engendered by sexual disharmony from this source leads to various other complications. As a result of unsatisfactory sexual relations in marriage, the partners become quarrelsome, embittered and nerve-racked. Neurasthenia is not an unusual result. These are among the more ordinary results that never reach the point of conspicuous public notice.

How many cases of infidelity, separation and divorce are due primarily to this cause it is impossible to say. And while the trouble is so often blamed on the "coldness" of the woman, in the great majority of cases it is due to the lack of insight and understanding on the part of the husband. He has never learned the physiology and psychology of love, and consequently he has never been able to practice in