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control, but not persistently suppress, her sexual prompting. Willingness may be shown by silent acquiescence, and active response, as excitement increases, is indicated.

"By gentle, playful resistance and half-concealed attractions, the imagination is exercised and mutual desire originated, but a combative attitude and lack of active cooperation when excitation has been established should not be shown. Hasty action on the part of the aggressor may be discouraged, but personal desire should be warmly welcomed. There should be no submission in the absence of emotion, but the greater the display of animation after union the more effective and complete the coupling. Elimination of fear is essential, and there should be no progressively suggested actions permitted or excitement occasioned when natural intercourse is prohibited.

"Solicitation is best conveyed by inference, but care should be taken that such be correctly interpreted. Whenever intercourse is attempted the climax should be diligently sought, and personal methods to effect its timely occurrence should be practiced."

Keeping the Romance in Marriage. It cannot be too strongly emphasized that the key to married happiness is to continue courtship throughout life. Happiness in marriage can exist only on a foundation of love, and love must be fostered and attended, and not taken for granted. There is every reason why the romance and beauty of courtship should be continued after marriage. A large proportion of the marriages that have been unable to survive the stormy and treacherous reefs of sexual ignorance could, if the couple had had an understanding of the psychology behind love, have kept the flame of love burning. Tact and consideration are qualities that mean much in the duration of love. The fiery, impulsive, impetuous lover is often a